Meet Paw-Paw Pettway 

By Shay Stinson 

 

On November 5, 2019, the agency’s Mobile, Alabama region hosted an online case review where our CEO Abdul Seraaj interviewed our foster parent Michael Pettwaya retired auto mechanic who still makes close family house calls and he finds the time and patience to maintain the neighborhood bike repair shop. He and Seraaj are quite familiar, so they took the chance to exchange “down home” Southern pleasantries. Pettway shared with the team that he began his journey of fostering through marriage to Deloris Whitfield-Pettaway. She was one of the original Mobile foster parents in the mid2000s when the region was first being established. Returning to her love of working with children, Deloris also brought her husband in as a foster parent, and he quickly found his place.  

Michael brought his jubilant personality and positive thinking on board for his journey of becoming the world’s greatest paw-paw, as his adopted kids lovingly refer to him. The Pettway’s adopted son Jemarious, affectionately nicknamed Tucka,” came to the Pettways as a nonverbal childThis was a challenge willingly accepted by the Pettways“You see he couldn’t talk; He couldn’t communicate,” said MichaelI used to watch him play with other children and he would try to get them to understand things, but he just couldn’t do it. It was so sad. He wasn’t potty trained at 3 years old, and he couldn’t eat on his own.” 

We learned that just a few days prior, Jemarious got a bad report from school. One that we all celebrated. As it turns out, after a few years of love and hard work, Jemarious, who was once nonverbal, had gotten bad marks for talking too much! What a joy this was to Seraaj. Michael explained how Jemarious was diagnoses at 3 years old to have the mind of a 9-month-oldHe refused to believe that. He explained to the group that loving and knowing your children can give you a different outcomeMichael is a firm advocate for knowing and building connections with your children. He says with this philosophy, you can arrive at a different conclusion than most professionals. Seraaj agreed.  

Having had five placements during their time as foster parents, the Pettways have tried and found methods that work for them. Connecting with their children is of the utmost importance. Michael says, “Nobody should be able to tell you more about your children than you. It’s gotta be that way. That’s the only way to get to reach them.”  

 

Mrs. & Mr. Deloris and Michael Pettway with their adopted son J. Pettway.

The Pettways also believe in maintaining a great working relationship with the biological families of their children. The Pettways make sure to communicate with the biological family they are not here to take their children away, explaining that their job as foster parents is to make sure they care for the children with love, while the biological family gets itself together. They keep true to this standard by making daily phone calls, keeping everyone involved in birthdays and holidays, and having regular visits, when possible.  

Handson parenting is key in the Pettway home. Their children travel well and with them, as he does not “believe in respite. Joking with Seraaj, Michael asks, “What is respite? What does respite do?” rejecting the notion that children should have to go stay with other foster parents while they vacation. The children of the Pettway house have traveled from one end of the nation to the next, and Michael makes sure to keep the biological family informed of those journeys.  

 Advice from Mr. Pettway on parenting – 

“Love makes you see things differently, Michael saidjoyfully laughingMichael has a plethora of advice to offer other parents and potential foster and adoptive parents, although he says he prefers to stay in the background and just work with the children.  

His current foster child and his adopted son play well together. They are loved and nurtured by all the locals.  

He ended his interview with Seraaj by reminding viewers why he does this: Speaking fondly of being raised in a loving Christian home, Michael said, “I love working with the kids. The love of God makes me want to be the best pawpaw. I love taking care of my kids.” You can find Michael on a pretty day in his yard letting his boys runs free... He’ll be the guy they call “paw-paw”.  

PFTs Michael and Deloris Pettway visiting the Seraaj Corporate Office and The Grandma Home House Retreat

 

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